When we say I love you, but we chronically don’t listen…When we say we’ll do something - but don’t…Our actions are speaking for us, telling a story for us. I encourage all of us to listen to ourselves- What are your actions really saying? Pay attention to the things you’re doing that you’ll say you’ll do. Pay attention to what it is you’re really communicating.
Read MoreI’ve been talking about this “Hell Yea” concept as a way to shift the energy within your relationship - and your life. But does it also apply to the bedroom? How? I work with a lot of couples where sex is an issue, but it is really about connection. Let’s explore:
Read MoreI work with a lot of couples in which it seems the issue is football, but really it’s about connection. He loves football and it’s his way of belonging to something bigger. She hates football and finds it a waste of time. He spends all Saturday watching the game with his friends, excited to…
Read MoreThere’s nothing more painful than fighting with your favorite people in the world, partner and kids. When you get in a fight with your kids, it doesn’t carry on for weeks. But when we fight with our significant others the hurt and pain can and often does last weeks. And with each passing day, the silent distance grows, and with it grows the pain.
Read MoreIt seems like everyone either knows someone who’s been laid off recently, or they’ve experienced it themselves. And if you didn’t personally experience a layoff, you are likely affected in other ways by the overall stressful wave of layoffs.
Read More“Why would you say that?”
“Why are you being such a @#$%!?”
“Why do you always do that?”
If you didn’t guess, those are examples of what NOT to say to your partner. 🤪
Read MoreEver feel like you’re doing more than your partner? Taking on more of the workload in your relationship?
If so, you’re not alone. I often hear this from the couples I work with – that all too familiar sense of resentment emerging as one partner vents about just how much they do on a regular basis - from cooking to kids stuff to planning trips.
It might be tempting to say or think: “It’s not fair!” - which only compounds the resentment.
Just like you might have weekly meetings with your manager or various team members at your workplace to create more efficiency and communication, it’s just as important to make time for a weekly check in with your partner.
The tide comes in. The tide goes out. You inhale. You exhale. The sun rises. The sun sets. Expansion. Contraction.
Relationships also have a rhythm. You feel close and connected and then distant and alone. This is the rhythm of life, yet most of us resist the rhythm.
