the real reason Valentine’s Day is a failure

In case you forgot, it’s almost Valentine’s Day. 😜

There can be soooo much pressure and expectation put on our relationships and partners on this day, and often, so much disappointment as a result.

Why is it such a failure for so many couples? My take is that it’s because we don’t really know what our partner’s primary love language is.

If someone’s love language is physical touch and they don’t have sex… 

If someone’s love language is words of affirmation and they don't receive a thoughtful card…

If someone’s love language is gift giving and they don’t receive flowers or something to open… 

…they will feel hurt or disappointed. 

Valentine’s is a day asking each of us to give our partner love in the way they primarily experience it. 

Of course, all ways of showing love are important, but if you can nail down that one way that means the most to them, it makes all the difference. 

So before the big day, have a talk with your partner and clarify what your love languages are. 

Be willing to be vulnerable to ask and to share – because the real vulnerability is not receiving what you expected. Don’t leave it up to guesswork, which will likely leave you both disappointed! 

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Happy Valentine’s!💞

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